Thursday, March 1, 2012

Somebody Needs a Brother

Namely this one:
I'm 100% certain that Oliver would LOVE a permanent playmate. But Mr. Palindrome is not.

Besides, it's more litter.

It's more food.

It's more mess.

It's more claw clipping and nail capping.

It's more money for pet sitters.

It's more vet bills and visits.

But isn't it also more love?

Yes.

So I've been doing some homework and the general consensus seems to be that getting the same gender, around the same age is a good way to introduce a new cat into the house.  For my blog friends with multiple cat households, did you follow that advice? What did you do and how did it work?

6 comments:

  1. I don't have two cats so I'm not the best person to give advice on this one, but we do have two dogs and we haven't regretted it for a second! They keep each other entertained and generally require less work for us than only one dog did. Do it!!

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  2. We got 2 kitties together so I can't really help with the introducing a new kitty. Our girls are sisters. They seriously love each other and play a lot. It's so cute. It's also really nice when we're too busy to play. They always have each other. Funny thing is that they is totally a kitty that wants to be with me more and one that wants to be with Hubs more. We couldn't even imagine having one without the other. Can't wait to hear what you decide to do.

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  3. I was in the same boat, I desperately wanted a sister for my kitty, but my husband did not. I finally wore him down. ;) My first cat (a girl) is about 3 now and we just recently adopted a 2 year old girl. At the shelter they actually told me that boys are usually easier to introduce no matter the gender of the other cat...I guess girls are just more high-strung. That said, we introduced our cats about a month ago and so far so good! They aren't besties yet, but they do chase each other around a lot...I call it "playing." In any case, my advice is go for it! The extra love more than makes up for the extra litter, etc.

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  4. P.S. Consider this me coming out of the blog-reading shadows. I followed you over from Weddingbee and love reading all about your cat! I feel like I had to respond since I just went through the process of getting a second kitty. :)

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  5. Here's the thing. Cats aren't pack animals. They are different from dogs in this way - dogs are truly lonely without someone to play with. Cats could really care less.

    THAT SAID, getting another cat can go three ways. What's a given are the things you listed. (Except it isn't twice as much hair; it seems like 10x as much, somehow). The three ways:
    1) they HATE EACHOTHER, forever. Causes distress for one or both, and even illness. I have had this happen, in the past. My older cat was so traumatized that she had to be hospitalized over it.
    2) they sort of tolerate eachother, but aren't friends. This seems to be most common with people I meet with two cats. They don't fight, but they also don't cuddle. Their relationship can be described as "tolerant-but-mildly-annoyed" or "passive aggressive." In my experience, this type of relationship causes more mischief in your home because now you have two cats trying to use your belongings to independently entertain themselves.
    3) they do become friends. They play together, sleep together, walk around together, and seem to enjoy being in the same room together. I'm lucky to have this with my cats, who are 2 years apart--very lucky since it was a rocky start for them. With this scenario, they do actually cause less mischief (or at least, the same amount as one cat alone did) because they're preoccupied with eachother and do stuff together.

    I was told by someone who has owned many cats in his life, that in his experience the best combination (aside from getting them at the same time) is: Older Male, Younger Female. Vice-versa is the worst combination, the females are, well, catty. Haha. Males are generally cuddly and easygoing, so they'll accept a young friend more easily. (I'm not sure why female/male matters -- maybe there are alpha-male tendencies?) Our set are older male, younger female and we've seen a good relationship develop, too.

    If you manage to convince Mr. P of a second cat, I'd say just make sure you follow the suggestions for how to 'integrate them' together. Separate rooms at first, introducing them to their scents through toys and blankets, letting them sniff through a door, etc. I've read that a lot of bad kitty relationships are the result of people just tossing them in together and figuring they'll 'fight it out' eventually. Cats hold grudges, yes they do!!

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  6. We have 2 cats, they're about 4 years apart in age. Although there was some hissing and such the first month or so they've been fine the last 6 years. Now they're buddies, they sleep together and chase each other around. I think they appreciate having the other since we work long hours and aren't always home to entertain them.

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